This is a very simple way to assess just what your needs are at this moment in time. Decide which of these pairs is most important. Then add up the scores for each number. You may well be amazed at what comes out on top.

Then after you have totted up your scores start to re-evaluate your goals and friendships. It may even help spur you into doing the things that you really should do, in order to move forward.

  1. Certainty/Security: assurance you can avoid pain and gain pleasure
  2. Uncertainty/Variety: the need for the unknown, change, new stimuli
  1. Certainty/Security: assurance you can avoid pain and gain pleasure
  2. Significance: feeling unique, important, special or needed
  1. Certainty/Security: assurance you can avoid pain and gain pleasure
  2. Connection/Love: a strong feeling of closeness or union with someone or something
  1. Certainty/Security: assurance you can avoid pain and gain pleasure
  2. Growth: an expansion of capacity, capability or understanding
  1. Certainty/Security: assurance you can avoid pain and gain pleasure
  2. Contribution: a sense of service and focus on helping, giving to and supporting others
  1. Uncertainty/Variety: the need for the unknown, change, new stimuli
  2. Significance: feeling unique, important, special or needed
  1. Uncertainty/Variety: the need for the unknown, change, new stimuli
  2. Connection/Love: a strong feeling of closeness or union with someone or something
  1. Uncertainty/Variety: the need for the unknown, change, new stimuli
  2. Growth: an expansion of capacity, capability or understanding
  1. Uncertainty/Variety: the need for the unknown, change, new stimuli
  2. Contribution: a sense of service and focus on helping, giving to and supporting others
  1. Significance: feeling unique, important, special or needed
  2. Connection/Love: a strong feeling of closeness or union with someone or something
  1. Significance: feeling unique, important, special or needed
  2. Growth: an expansion of capacity, capability or understanding
  1. Significance: feeling unique, important, special or needed
  2. Contribution: a sense of service and focus on helping, giving to and supporting others
  1. Connection/Love: a strong feeling of closeness or union with someone or something
  2. Growth: an expansion of capacity, capability or understanding
  1. Connection/Love: a strong feeling of closeness or union with someone or something
  2. Contribution: a sense of service and focus on helping, giving to and supporting others
  1. Growth: an expansion of capacity, capability or understanding
  2. Contribution: a sense of service and focus on helping, giving to and supporting others

Count up all the 1’s 2’s etc and then write up your top three. Now decide just how you are going to act using those priorities. Do remember that these change over time, so you can always pop back and run this test again.